I’m out of things to blog for the time being. So… I’m just going to share some views of mine from my observations. I wonder… What are the reasons for people to decide that they want to get married? You might not agree with it or you might have the same view as mine, whatever it is, I’m still going to list them out.
1. Both are ready to embark on the next phase of life because they are mature enough to do so which this is really good.
2. There are some that got married because of “accident”. For our culture, it’s a shame to the family, therefore they force the couple to get married to save face. It’s ok if the couple is ready and they do accept the responsibility but there are many that I notice are just opposite. They got married in a speed of lightning and divorce in a speed of lightning too. Sorry, I do look down on people like this. What’s the point of getting married like this? You want to save your face, at the end you also lose your face. Spent so much on the lavish wedding and ended up with ugly divorce that cost a lot of money and fight for child custody. So troublesome. Serve you right! People! If you want to have sex, go ahead but please be responsible to yourself and your partner. Sex is only for those that are mature and responsible bunch. Don’t do it if you are still a kid, it doesn’t matter you are in your 20’s or 30’s or whatever, as long that you don’t know how to be a responsible person then you are a kid. Got it? You will not understand this if you’re a kid. Simple.
3. Some got married because you want to escape from your family problem. This is stupid! You are not even sincere at all. You just want to escape. Usually this type will not think carefully before jump into a marriage. Stupid enough that they thought they can escape but they ended up in another set of problem for themselves in their own marriage and with their in-laws in all kind of aspects because they don’t plan and think carefully. They only think about how to ESCAPE! HAHAHA!!! I’m going to laugh at you, such idiots! It happens that I know several people that are like this and it happens that I don’t like them too, so I’m going to laugh, laugh, laugh and laugh. See people that I don’t like suffer is such a bliss!
4. Some got married becuase they have some motives behind. Usually it’s for money. I don’t think I need to elaborate further on this. You know, I know. Very straight forward.
Hmmm… Can only think of these 4. So… I have no conclusion hahaha… They are just parts and parcels of our life and everyone deserves to have their own views and deserve to look down on people(don’t say you don’t, I’m sure you do look down on certain people, you are also human) and being “evil”.
Good points, totally agree with you!
While I agree with your points and think MANY people get married for those reasons I think you are leaving out the most important one. LOVE
I thought I would never get married until I met my wife. I LOVED being a bachelor and my family put no pressure on me to be married.
When you find the right person you just know it. It’s someone you can’t imagine living without. Its someone who compliments your personality and life. My wife and I have been married 7 years now and been together for 9 total and have only had 3 real arguments in that time and even in those we have never said anything we couldn’t take back. I can spend every day with her and still no get tired of her company. I think she feels the same way about me. I would rather be with her than any of my guy friends. We have been together through good and bad times. From the poor college years to the comfortable post college years. From having $2 in the bank to $20,000.
Don’t marry for anything but love. Too many people marry for money, looks, or status. All of those things are temporary. Love and mutual respect is much more lasting.
Don’t feel “rushed” into marriage by family or friends. The right person comes along when you least expect it. Marrying anything less than your ideal person is a mistake.
Don’t marry someone with the idea of “changing” something about them. Too many women marry men who aggravate them or have a major character flaw thinking that marriage will change the guy. It doesn’t. If a guy cheats, drinks, does drugs chances are marriage inst going to change that.
Marriage is fantastic with the right person, terrible with the wrong one.
Monkey, it’s just what happening around us.
Jay, totally. Hahah… I thought my first point already covers what you said about love just that I didn’t mention this word instead I use the word “mature”, mature in every aspect which include emotionally, mentally etc.
can the right one change a money face? :p
Hmm… Maybe lo… If there’s a right one 😛
….totally agree with Jay. When u least expect it, that “life partner” will apprear….
…just dont think about it too much, have many good friends and new friends…..
…and when that “life partner” comes, you will know it…..
….also, do not rule out or take freindship for granted…..
….give friends a chance to express themself but dont rush it, let it develop naturally…..
….. just be open, happy and contented….
….when it happens…. it happens.. dont be too forceful and too rush…. 🙂
…that’s how we got married as well, after breaking off with our ex’s …. we took time to get over it….
…later we socialize with our circle of friends, … got introduce…… became friends ,,, and it develop from there….. but there were a difference when you finally met someone special…. cheers 🙂
caseyandpeanut, that’s ideal. Sadly, not everyone is “mature” enough to get married, they are marrying for the wrong reason and burn themselves.
Funny… 3 of my relatives got “accident” this year + last … all below 21… yihaaa…
-.-” lucky not you.