I had a conversation with someone few days back. Here’s the statement:
“If you love someone, you won’t go and find other people to have sexual related activities with you. If you do so, it means you don’t love that person at all.”
So… Do you agree or not?
I strongly agree with it but that person that I had the conversation with did not agree. I mean like WTF!?!? How can you say that you love a person and then you find other people for your sexual pleasure!?!? Isn’t that cheating? You are cheating yourself and your loved one. You still dare to say that you love that person. You don’t love that person at all. If you love a person, only him/her will be the one that do all the intimate things with you not with others!
It’s such simple rule and you just don’t get it? I’m sorry. All I can say that you don’t love that person at all. Stop cheating yourself and also be a CHEATER! You do not deserve to be loved or love someone.
To all my readers, what say you? It’s common sense what?!?! This is call cheating! It’s not love at all. Any sane human will know this simple rule.
That’s sad man. -_-” Anyway, my stand is one man, one woman, no “one leg step on two boat”, or play “wood three”. Full stop đ
Should throw back this question to your friend, that he’s partner is sleeping around with someone else and he’s ok with that đ
Yea Irene..
I totally agree with you!
If the person truly loves the partner, what for still looking for others? Just to satisfy their sexual need? Freak out with this kind of people! (=.=”)
—Sweet Lavender—
Yup.. I have the same agreement… You should only be with the one you love.
hi, juz pass by and accidently reading ur blog.
I’m fully agree with wat u’re saying.
seems like ur fren prefer sex more than lov.
Obviously that’s what sane people will say, thanks for the comments.
Uhmmm……. hardly can comment. Once comment, sure got tons to say haha. I dont agree with ur fren overall…. maybe not mature yet kua
I would say it’s desperate!
Wonder how your friend would feel if your friend’s partner cheated on ’em. O.o
Ah well… That’s their problem, the two stupid people.
Some ppl are too flowerheart ~ Say what to them also no use de..
ahlost, yealo… I would say indecisive, everything they want. Cheat ownself and others.
Love and sex.
Sex is only an essential in a so called in love relationship….
Sex without love is lame…
So LOVE is more important than SEX!
First of all, there should be no sex before marriage.
He doesn’t get that in order to consider himself loving his partner, he needs to think about her feelings too, not just his own. He just thinks, “Oh, I *DO* love her!” but what he doesn’t know is… his actions sleeping with other women are selfish and hurtful, especially to his partner. Commitment and faithfulness are part of the signs of true love.
You know, a lot of men use that kind of excuse to sleep around. Who do they think are fooling?!
Coki, yes.
jam, finally! Someone agree with no sex before marriage! High 5!!
Ann, men…
Me too!!!!
No sex before marriage! đ
I tot no ppl will agree this statement..
Finally i found 2 tat agree with me here.. yea..
strongly agreeable. No body like to be cheated.
Princess Snow, YEAH!
Bern, yea… No body like to be cheated and cheating yourself is even worst.
i am totally agree with tat… sex related activities is only for the Dear one….
Amiey, yea…
Below are just my opinions. I am not a physiologist. This is just behavior I have witnessed from friends and personal experiences. Some of it may be a bit crude and for this I am sorry.
Itâs a complicated issue but I strongly disagree with the statement âIf you love someone, you wonât go and find other people to have sexual related activities with you. If you do so, it means you donât love that person at all.â
I have known many people (both guys and girls) who cheat but really love their significant other. There are many reasons people cheat but women tend to look at it in only a love/sex way. âHeâs getting sex with me so he shouldnât desire it elsewhere.â This is an unrealistic view. Just because I am dating a girl doesnât mean I donât find other women beautiful. If a guy tells you he no longer looks at other women he is a liar (no exceptions).There is no switch in the brain that a guy can turn off. No matter who I am with I will still find Angelina Jolie pretty. I will still read FHM/Maxim and yes even internet porn. I also donât expect my girl to quit looking at good looking guys/porn. This is fine as long as the guy or girl just âlooksâ and doesnât do it in an obvious or insulting way.
The truth is cheating can stem from numerous things, here are a few. Lust/horniness, self esteem issues, personality defects/psychological issues/upbringing, or circumstances.
Lust; self explanatory. If it stems purely from lust, then their love for you may be suspect.
Self Esteem; guys and girls are vain. Menâs egos are very fragile and deep down we can be vainer than women. Men are also taught that our worth is somewhat tied to our female conquests. Women correlate being desired sexually with physical beauty. They may just set out to flirt to feel better about themselves but this often leads to other things. Getting a person to have sex with us makes us feel better about ourselves. Strangely cheaters often feel terrible about themselves after the act. This often subsides with maturity, hopefully by the end of college, but can easily last a lifetime.
Personality defect, Psychological issues, and Upbringing; these are tied together somewhat. Some people, through upbringing, events, or brain wiring are cheaters. If you were raised in an environment where cheating was witnessed this can often influence your behavior. Just like children that are abused can become abusers. In my opinion these guys/girls will always be compulsive cheaters.
Circumstances; People often put themselves into situations that they shouldnât. Out late, drinking, partying with the friends or traveling to fun locations. Alcohol, pride, fun, and encouragement from friends can lead to cheating. Imagine a person on a business trip to a beautiful location. Everything is paid for, the situation is perfect, people are a little drunk, and a good looking man/woman comes up to them are flirts. This is the realm of the occasional or one time cheater, he/she may not be out looking but in the right situation anything is possible.
The comedian Chris Rock once said âa guy is only as loyal as his optionsâ. I think this is true for many people both male and female. Iâm sure if Brad Pitt/Matt Damon/Dream Guy had come along to some of my old girlfriends and really put the moves on they may have cheated or left me. I have had women who I know really loved me, cheat on me.
I consider myself an extremely loyal guy and although I have had opportunities, I have not cheated on a girlfriend since high school (and only 1 time there and she wasnât a serious GF). But I can not say I will never do it. Maybe some day Angelina Jolie will come up to me when I am drunk.
Hope you donât think less of this loyal reader đ
wah… long one ;p Don’t worry. You are entitle to your views and I do agree with some of them.
I will just explore, what’s the consequences of the absence of either one, love and sex.
Love without sex. Isn’t familial love is the first kind of love you receive?
Sex without love is prostituting one’s body and soul.
When what’s left in love is only sex, dignity will be lost.
I agree with the statement. Sex is to enhance intimacy of couples, that’s why God has created and granted this function to humans.
Even you also know how to think đ Kudos!